Do you remember the last time you laughed without judgment? Count anything from a giggle to laughing until your sides hurt. Can you remember the last time you did that? Narcissists have an ability to kill comedy (or a general good mood) by being present. I remember watching a sitcom. I think I made a…
“No is a complete sentence.” Have you ever noticed that people only want you to explain yourself when you tell them “No” to something? People rarely argue with you if you agree with them or allow them what they want. Example: Person A: Can you buy me lunch today? You: No. Person A: Why not?…
Narcissism: “dog whistling” Have you ever heard a dog whistle when it’s blown? Don’t worry if you haven’t. It wasn’t created for you to hear. It was created to produce a frequency too high for human ears (you may hear a hissing sound) but clear enough for dogs to hear it and react. Depending on…
Since we’ve mentioned exercise, I figured I should add stretching as well. It’s a nice balance. I didn’t have a particular reason for adding this blog other than the fact that I like how I feel after and during a nice stretch. It’s nice for unwinding at the end of the day. I can relax…
“You need to exercise.” I could say that this sentence makes me pop up and get moving or that I’ve appreciated when someone has told me this. Knowing what I should do and then doing it doesn’t always happen in a reasonable amount of time. Just like it shouldn’t have taken me months to get…
Everything is not out of your control. Yes, things may have been extremely tough. You were robbed, abandoned, injured, unjustly fired, lied on, manipulated. You may have lost your home, reputation, everything you worked to gain. You’re not starting from Square #1; you’re starting in the negative. I hear what you’re saying. Now, I have…
Many times, when survivors are trying to make sense of things and are picking up the pieces, we have internalized insults and believe lies told to us. We second-guess our abilities and question others when they compliment us. Our self-esteem and confidence have been damaged, so we may question the sincerity of those around us…
Be honest. Are you still checking your narcissist’s social media page? Are you replaying old voicemails and re-reading old messages? Are you going out of your way to find out what they’re doing, who they’re with, and how they’re getting along without you? Yes? Guess what? Your narcissist is probably banking on you doing that…
I put off having a sleep study done until this year. I tried to deny how important sleep was until I could see how not getting enough was affecting my health. So, for this post, I invited a specialist, Kelly Myerson, to contribute. She offers services to help you get your best sleep and has…
Now that you’ve gone outside, let’s make sure you’re getting some of that free Vitamin D (which, apparently, isn’t actually a vitamin). You may be thinking back to milk commercials and saying to yourself, “I get that with my cereal.” According to the drugs.com website, “Only 10% of the vitamin D our body needs is…